Why is it that so many gay men have body image challenges? This is something that I can personally speak to, as well as many of my friends, colleagues, and guys I work with. Does it have to do with values? Our sexuality? Our attraction towards the physical?

I recently came across an advertisement that prompted me to really think about this. It reminded me of the Jim Morrison quote, “Whoever controls the media, controls the mind.” So who controls the media? It’s kind of like the chicken or the egg.

Why is this question even important? Because it has everything to do with how we experience ourselves and how we experience ourselves is how we experience each other. Right now is a pivotal time in history with the gay movement and equal rights. If it’s true that we teach people how to treat us, then what are we teaching?

A Course in Miracles says that, “all behavior teaches the beliefs that motivate it.” So what are our beliefs? If we don’t all carry the same beliefs or have the same belief system, then why is it pretty common amongst gay men to have body image challenges?

Author Brene Brown wrote in her book Daring Greatly, “Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

So this question made me think about our level of self-acceptance. Do challenges with body image in the gay community have a direct correlation to our level of self-acceptance? If so, how does our level of self-acceptance correlate to our vision of equality and equal rights?

Einstein said, “You can never solve a problem on the level on which it was created.” This is key because this is where we rise above any “worldly” challenge and tap into our Truth, our spirituality. I once heard in a lecture that spirituality is “the direct experience of your own essence.” In this sense, we transcend “body image” and remember who we are.

If I remember who I am, I remember who you are. If I remember who you are, I remember what’s important. By remembering what’s important, I begin to challenge the status quo and begin to ask questions. And at the end of the day, the quality of our lives is a direct reflection of the quality of questions we are willing to ask ourselves.

So, yes, I get it. Sex sells. But Truth…Truth also sells.