3 Phases of Freedom: My Journey to Sobriety

By |July 29th, 2017|

“I believe that telling our stories, first to ourselves and then to one another and the world, is a revolutionary act.” Janet Mock
Four years ago I made a decision that changed my life.

Since then, I’ve never felt freer. The decision to quit drinking didn’t happen over night. It was something I thought about for […]

Why Heteronormativity Is Harmful

By |July 18th, 2017|

Last month, at an educational event, I spoke on a panel with an elementary school teacher who has two decades’ worth of experience. She shared a personal revelation about heteronormativity in the classroom: Even though she is a supportive and affirming mother of an LGBT child, it had never occurred to her that the […]

Being Authentically Proud

By |June 9th, 2017|

Last week I was speaking at a high school and a young girl asked me whether or not I loved myself. I was there to share with them my experience of coming out and I told them loving myself wasn’t something I knew how to do when I was younger. She then asked me, […]

Transformation is Everywhere: Lessons From Car Trouble

By |April 13th, 2017|

Yesterday I had to take an Uber home. My car died while I was at a red light and so I had to have it towed to a mechanic. While in the middle of the intersection waiting for Triple A to arrive, I felt tempted to go into fear, worry, doubt, anger, and victimhood. […]

A Surprise Lesson From My Relationship

By |February 20th, 2017|

I’m in a new relationship. It’s not that new, but it’s unlike any other I’ve had. Up until now I haven’t talked much about it to anyone. We’ve been pretty low key about everything the past few years.

Up until this weekend I didn’t realize it was as serious as it was until I shared […]

Helping Create Allies One Child at a Time

By |December 11th, 2016|

Michelle’s mother realized she’s transgender one night while consoling her after a panic attack. She said Michelle began getting really bad panic attacks before bed when she was 10 years old. On this one particular night while rocking her in her arms, Michelle asked her a question. Not raising her in a particular religion, […]

How Trump made us Come Clean

By |November 23rd, 2016|

“What if your parents asked you to clean your room?” I asked a group of seventh and eighth graders today.
We were discussing the election and the number one thing they wanted to talk about was how upset they were that Donald Trump will be president. In fact, for their final project of making a […]

What Running The L.A. Marathon Means For Me

By |October 3rd, 2016|

I’ve always loved running. The last time I ran a marathon I was living in Monterrey, Mexico. I wasn’t out of the closet and so signed up to run a marathon because it seemed like a good excuse to not have to go out on the weekends.

It became too exhausting pretending to hit on […]

3 Simple Tools to Bring You More Peace (Swimming in the Ocean and Playing With Monkeys Counts)

By |May 16th, 2016|

When we ask someone a question, we don’t typically get a response that can cause us to wonder how we’re living our life. When I asked my friend Ryan, “Why are you going to Thailand?” He responded simply, “to swim in the ocean and play with monkeys.” I felt like I was trying to […]

Our Beliefs Matter: A Deeper Look at Institutionalized Homophobia.

By |March 16th, 2016|

James was my friend’s brother and best friend—he passed away last month from a heroin overdose.

He was 25 years old.

James was many things, he was a brother, a friend, a son, and most importantly, a life—a fellow human being.

He was also gay.

When I heard about James’ death, I immediately wondered if it had anything […]